Don't be one of them.
This has been weighing on my heart lately, as it seems every time I turned around someone turned their back and gave up on me. I am not a halfway person, if you trust me I am giving you EVERYTHING I have. To go out of your way for someone, to be treated like you don't even matter HURTS. There is no sugar coating it, it really freaking stinks. But at the end of the day, you can't control what other people think of you or how they treat you. What you can control is how you react to their actions.
I am here to tell you, when everyone else seems to be giving up on you, don't give up on yourself. Lean into those people who would give their life for you, just like you would go to the ends of the earth for them. This life will show you who deserves your heart and your focus, and when people show you they don't deserve it? LET THEM GO. You know that you are a badass, that anyone on this planet would be lucky to be your friend. They chose not to, they chose to hurt you, to scorn your friendship and everything you've done for them. I put it very simply, bless and release.
I am not telling you to wish ill on others, that will just weigh on you longer. I am definitely not telling you to facebook stalk your ex or his new girlfriend every day forever. I am telling you to take a deep breath, and let go. You don't have to forgive, you don't have to forget, but if we just move on with our lives....we will end up exactly where we are meant to be. Holding on to grudges and hatred, whether they were your boyfriend, someone you considered a close friend, or heck even family, does not mean they deserve a place in your heart forever OR that they deserve your thoughts.
When it seems everyone is giving up on you, don't be one of them. You find your strength in moments of despair. When it seems like everything is falling apart (and trust me, I've been there way more than once), something good may be falling together. So bless, release, get a cup of coffee and throw on your favorite leggings girl. You're about to change your whole world. You just don't know it yet.
I always say, you can't stop a girl with a fire in her heart, a cup of coffee in her hand, and an attitude to prove others wrong. Besides, when it all falls apart, you might meet a nice guy with some cute pups, get six more and a nice house and decide that you'll create your own forever. If I had gave up on myself, I wouldn't be the woman I am today and neither will you. Go be that unicorn babe, I believe in you.